I’m Engaged! The Proposal Story

Andy and Megan showing off their new engagement.

Me and my beautiful Fiancé!

So here is a concise version of how it all happened…

I wanted our engagement to be something special, but not cheesy. I wanted it to be personal but not a repeat of some other date. I also wanted to keep it simple so it would be about us and not about the flashy stuff around. So here’s how it went.

First, I have already asked her parents previously and have their blessing. So I had the go ahead, I already have the ring, next I need a way to present the proposal. It is the end of December in southern Wisconsin, so it is cold but beautiful outside. I pick the park that Megan and I were at when we officially started dating to be the place to ask her.

It is the night before I ask, so I go to scope out the park. There is snow everywhere, so I know I will need to shovel some in the morning. Come next morning I go to the park and shovel a pathway to the same spot where we started dating and I shovel off the pick-nick table and sweep it clean too.

Now I go home and prepare some custom hot chocolate (I obviously previously had gotten the ingredients). I looked up a few different tips and recipes online to make really good hot chocolate so it is not just your average every day premade mix. The hot chocolate turns out pretty good, in my opinion.

I had previously invited Megan to go on a walk so that we could have a small date before we go back to school. So before she gets to my house I hide the hot chocolate in the car and heat it up. When she arrives we leave for the park. It is cold outside, so we stay inside the car for a little bit to stay warm, and we read some Proverbs. Proverbs 30 to be exact. After reading some I ask her if she wants to go for a walk. Megan agrees, but when we get out of the car I have the grab the hot chocolate and oreos. She is pleasantly surprised because she likes surprises.

We walk over to the table, she has noticed that I might have been the one to clear it off, so she is pretty impressed at this point. After having some hot chocolate we sit down to just talk and hang out. At this point, I want to trick her to keep her surprised to the very last second but I also want to tell her why she is so special to me before I ask her to marry me. So I use the excuse of apologizing. I start to apologize that we cannot get married any time soon, so in addition to my apology I tell her all the reasons why I will ask her “some day.”

She takes this all in well, and I don’t think she suspects anything. So I start pretending to see something in the distance, she notices I am looking at something so she starts to look that way too. After she looks away, I use this opportunity to quick grab the ring out of my pocket and get on my knee! She turns around and I am on one knee with the ring open and I ask her if she would spend the rest of her life with me!

She is very excited and says yes right away. But I am not done, I explain to her the Proverb we read in the car was not entirely random, but there were specific verses in there I wanted her to hear verses 18-19. “There are three things that amaze me— no, four things that I don’t understand . . . how a man loves a woman.” I tell her how I am still amazed at how in love with her I am. I explain to her that before I met her I never knew I could feel this way about another person. I don’t think I will ever be able to express how much I love her. And that is why I want to spend the rest of my life with Megan, and that is how I asked her to spend her life with me.

Back to blogging and New Beginnings

So it has been a very long while since I have actually posted here… Basically, I made the excuse that it was finals week. Then I wanted to rest. Then I just kind of kept putting it off…

Picture of sparks and flames

Sparks And Flames by Bobby Mikul

Anyways, I am back and hopefully will be more active now. I have decided to change up my format a little bit so that I will have the freedom to write more. I think one of the reasons I stopped posting is because I was trying to be consistent with my formatting and what not, so it made it much more work than fun. I want this blog to be more where I can just rant. So I have decided that my new blog posts will not have any real set consistencies except for a few categorical ones… Basically I am just going to try to give myself the freedom to write as much or as little as I want. Before I was always waiting until I had something to write a page amounts worth. The problem is when I had something I was too tired to write, by the time I wasn’t tired I had forgotten about it.

So, to catch you up on my life, I actually have much to talk about. This also relates to how I am going to change the way I run my blog. First off, I am engaged!

Andy and Megan showing off their new engagement.

Me and my beautiful Fiancé!

Over Christmas break I got engaged. This is one new component I am going to add to my blog. I am going to have a category all about my engagement, and hopefully into my marriage and forever. This will be fun because it will track my way of thinking and the changes in my life that I see specifically relevant because of my new soon-to-be married life. So if you want to read how I proposed and more about all that jazz, I will post that soon and place the link right here! Moreover, I am doing an internship now! I am interning in youth ministry at the Church I go to here in Oshkosh. So that will be a big change in my life and add a lot of excitement hopefully. This also is slightly related to my new category I am going to start writing about my theological ramblings. Sadly, since I am doing this internship, more is changing in my life. I will be stepping down from leadership in my InterVarsity chapter on my campus. The chapter is awesome! I just won’t have enough time to do both. In addition to all of those changes, this is my last semester (as long as I don’t fail any classes)! Meaning I will graduate soon and I will need a real job!

It’s like I am becoming a real adult all at once… I feel like I should pretend to be more mature or something along that matter.

Picture of glasses laying on an open Bible

Book And Glasses by Darren Lewis

Hopefully I will have a lot to blog about now, so I can keep this going. I will continue to ramble about random stuff here, I will start blogging about my engagement-marriage experience, and I will start to specifically blog about my theological/philosophical thoughts.Who knows, maybe I will even post more jokes in my joke section? All in all, that’s pretty much all the major changes in my life. Here’s to a happy new year and a revitalized blog!

P.S.
I swear,  I will start proof reading these when I get less lazy!

Facebook Fights and Human Nature

                So I posted a link to an interesting blog post on facebook today. It got quite the reactions. I was surprised by the immediate and emotional responses. Though I guess I should not had been too surprised. People like their politics. I encourage you to read through the blog post, it is a very good read. Moving on, the reason I was surprised by the responses was because they were not angry at the poster of the blog, it was almost like concern for me that I would read such things. Overall it was not much of a facebook discussion. I don’t do much on facebook, so it was more than my wall usually receives. Even though this instance was not a argument or anything of that sort, it reminded me of how humorous facebook debates are.

That is one thing I love about the newness of social networking, the stuff that people share is really quite surprising. I am surprised sometimes when people pour out their heart or bash some acquaintance of himself/herself. It is bound to be for a good throwback of witty sayings and sometimes misinterpreted quotes; its fantastic. My favorite is when the original post was about something that should hold no real importance, but people argue it like it is the end of the world to them (#first_world_problems). It makes sense to me though, modern society needs a new place for people to hold open debates. The only thing I don’t understand is why people still make such stupid remarks, because they can type it, think about it, revise it, and reread it before they ever have to post it. With all those capabilities, people still never cease to post really ignorant and arrogant remarks. I figure that is human nature, people like to be heard.

Human nature is a strange thing, because I don’t think there is an easy way to define it. I read an interview today, where the person being interviewed commented on how people use the terms “natural” and “unnatural” very loosely and often use them as synonyms of “good” and “bad.” I thought it was a very interesting thought. And it got me thinking about what human nature really is. I tend to be pessimistic , so I say humans are inherently evil – and that is why our world is so cruel. On the other hand, I have my moments of optimism. I feel like there are many examples of real altruism between humans, and real sacrificial love for others, it is just rare. I usually close my posts with a more closed thought than this, but to be honest I’m not sure I know what I think yet. I’d like to hear from others, please post and let me know what you think of human nature.

Flat tires and Dogma

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So today I made it to work miraculously after spending over an hour trying to change flat tire to a spare tire. After getting a flat tire, I assumed that I would be able to quickly change to my spare. But little did I know that the tire on there was being held on by a thousand demons – or something like that, I just assumed. Anyways, it was quiet an adventure, but I made it, walking into work 1 minute before my shift started. It’s a good thing that I planned to have some “ped” time for making it to work; hooray for planning! The reason I was so far away from work in the first place was because I was helping out at a youth outing with the youth group I help out at.

So this weekend the youth group I help out at is having a weekend conference. It has been very fun and rewarding so far, and I don’t think that is going to change. The weekend has been great to be able to see middle school and high school students have a fantastic time hanging out and chillin with each other. More importantly, it has been cool to see the students critically think about their lives. The conference theme is all about culture. It has been really awesome to see the students take it on themselves to think critically through questions about what they think about the culture and where they fit into it.

Famous Christian Anarchist - Leo Tolstoy

I enjoy seeing other people think through different theories, instead of just accepting what they are told. I am not big on pushing Dogma on others and forcing them to believe what I believe. I am the furthermost thing away from being a relativist though; I strongly think that there is a Truth and not multiple truths. The reason I believe it is wrong to want others just to think what I think is that that would be extremely arrogant. I do not claim to be the smartest person in the world, so I only offer what I have found out already and what I believe to be true. Don’t get me wrong, I am not easily tossed back and forth by different thoughts, I just don’t claim to be the all knowing God. The famous Christian anarchist, Leo Tolstoy, once said, “Dogmas – on which all men do not agree, which are of no use to anyone, which ruin men – are what the hierarchy has been giving out as faith” (Church and State).  I find this to be an interesting statement. Though I do not know if I entirely agree, I do think this Tolstoy’s statement holds some sort of truth. First, I think Dogmas are not inherently evil, I think they are valuable for an individual to have. I do not think that gives humans the right to kill or hate other humans in the name of dogma though. Moreover, I do think dogmas can harm people. I think like Tolstoy said, dogmas “ruin men,” can be very true. I think this is most true in the situations in which people allow dogma to block out logic or reason. Because though I believe there is real truth out there, people may not always have it right, so for a person to assume that he/she cannot be wrong, would harm that person by keeping them from truth. I think this rings true with how Tolstoy explains it as being given out as faith too, too often I think people assume what they know has to be correct and have all faith in something that they themselves came to the conclusion of. To put complete faith in your own idea is to claim that you are God because you are saying your idea cannot be wrong. All in all, this is just a brief statement about what I think about this topic. It was very quickly written too. That being said, I think it is worth further investigation and thought, so I will think it through more, and please leave comments on what your opinions are of dogma. Also, I really enjoy this topic, if you think I should do some blogs dedicated to talking about Church and about the State, leave comments and let me know.

Playing Games

I learned a new game today called “drug dealer” or something like that. This makes me wonder why I find certain games enjoyable and certain games boring. I had fun tonight playing games, but there are definitely times from the past where I have been bored playing games. It is odd that people are entertained by different things. What in the human mind determines whether something is pleasurable or not. It makes me think of when I was younger, how many hours upon hours I wasted playing video games. Why don’t people find productive things to be the most enjoyable? This thought reminds me of another concept that I often wonder about, can anyone be friends, or do friends have to be compatible.

Often times I have gotten into debates about what makes a friendship. I think it is very fair to think that anyone is a potential friend. On the other hand, there are certainly people who share interests that seem to be more compatible to be friends. This makes me wonder though, is this really friendship. If someone’s purpose of having a friend is solely pleasure, it is totally selfish. A friend should care about the other people, not only because they share interests, but because it is another human that he/she shares life with. If I were to define friendship, I would define it as “people who share life together.” I do not think that people need to be similar or even have common interests to share life; they just need to value each other. All in all, I think this topic requires a longer discourse than this here. Friendship is definitely a topic worth taking the time to think about, it is something I have thought about a lot after making so many new friends at school.

I have been in college for a while now. Most of my friends here, I have known for a while, but not as long as I have known my friends from back home. If I have learned one thing about friendship in school, I have learned it takes a lot of energy. I think it makes sense; you need to invest into people if you want some sort of return (i.e. a friendship). Since being here at school, I have met several people. It is an odd thing to be a part of different friend groups. My friends mean a lot to me, and all of them are unique in their own ways. One thing I need to continue to learn how to do; I need to learn how to be a better friend myself to repay the friends I have.

Inspiring Discussions

There was an awesome conversation last night in my house. Maybe Monday night discussions will be our new Monday house theme. The discussion lasted for a very long time, and even though I had to stay up until 2 in the morning to finish my paper for the next day, it was well worth it. We talked about beliefs changing your life. There are a lot of things people say they believe, but their life is no different. Even though most beliefs require some sort of response if the person truly believes it. It was a thorough dialogue on our own lives and how we claim to believe certain things but do not act on them. How can we stand by and watch people starve in other countries while we live comfortably in our house with abundant food while watching our 45” flat screen TV, yet we still claim to have love for humanity. Certain things require a response.

As I blog more and more, I feel I am getting more sentimental. I feel there is a need for sentiment more than there is for casual lifestyles. Often in my life I get a little out of hand with living too casually: Joking too much, not knowing how to respond to someone’s pain, or even avoiding situations that I know will make me guilty. I do not think it is wrong to have fun and enjoy oneself, but I certainly think it is wrong to do it at the expense of humanity, in any quantity. Yes, people may not be dying from living a casual life, but there is something to be said about living decently while someone else cannot even survive. Overall, I think I am going to start trying to be less casual, and a little more serious.

I think being too serious can get you into problems though. This is one thing I definitely don’t have a problem with, quite the contrary. Either way, I think it is worth addressing. One of my biggest pet peeves is when people are too serious or are stuck up. There are definitely two sides to the spectrum, but I think it bothers me more when people are stuck up, because they make people who are not serious feel awful by means of aiming poor attitudes at those people. It is a difficult balance. For me, I lean more towards being too relaxed – which I like, because I do not get frustrated easily. At the same time, it is good to learn how to be sensitive to help those in need of someone who is sensitive and understanding.

Its a New Week!

The new week has started. After a long hard weekend of work, finally the week is here. It is almost enjoyable knowing the week is starting just because I know it means it is that much closer to the next weekend. I find it odd about myself, how I am always looking forward to something else. To be content is definitely a difficult task. From small things to big things, it feels like everything is just pushing forward to the impending doom of being over so that something new can start.

Most of all, I think school is the most difficult to be content in. Don’t get me wrong, I love being in school, I love academia; it is just the feeling of knowing that I am practically trapped here and I need to finish before I can start something else. That is probably why it is hard for me to be content – I am too much of a spontaneous person.  So the feeling of having a task with a deadline, or having something that needs to be finished (i.e. my bachelors degree) is a very demoralizing feeling. I am close though, I can taste the finish line. I am coming up to my last semester in the Spring. Hopefully it will by my last, that is – if I do choose to add a second major to my degree, that will be another whole semester. Decisions make it even more difficult to deal with. Not only do I have to wait to be done with school, but I have to choose whether or not I need to wait longer. Overall, I think the real question is if its worth it.

I often look at my college career wondering if it has been worth it. I know I have made a lot of good friends and I have experienced a lot being here. At the same time, I can’t shake the feeling that I could be doing something more worth my while. I would rather be out in the world making some sort of difference now instead of waiting for my school to be done. At the same time, with more education I may be of more use. Often I hear people say how “we cannot really impact or change the world so why try.” I beg to differ though, I think that is exactly the reason there are problems. Anyways, I am getting too serious for right now, I will put that topic on the back burner for another time. All in all, I would just like to feel like I am not totally wasting my time at school, I need to be a part of something radically different.

Fighting Zombies

The Walking Dead

Sometimes you just want to fight some zombies. I’ve been in the zombie fighting mood all day. Perhaps that is because I have been watching The Walking Dead a lot recently. I have a very bad television addiction. That’s beside the point though, zombies are the topic at hand. It is a crazy subject because there are so many different types of zombies. I mean, there are your standard Dawn of the Dead zombies, where they are just people that are able to operate still even though they are dead. And there are your Resident Evil zombies who are controlled by parasites. On the other hand, there are those hybrid vampire zombie things from I am Legend. So many zombies to choose from, which one do I want to be!?

Anyways, so it is like Halloween outside or something like that, because there are monsters all over the place. So my zombie killing kick isn’t the best feeling to have right now. It is part of living on a college campus, I guess, people wandering around like zombies every weekend. I don’t really understand how they put up with the cold though, it’s practically snowing out. I have to give them credit though, they’re out living large as I am in finishing my homework I have been putting off.

The weekend is coming to a close, and it has been well spent. My commentary on my life, (or my blog) whatever you choose to call it, has already proven to be a good time consumer for me. I find myself constantly thinking of what I would like to write about. I don’t find too many things of that much interest, mainly because school is in the way of me being able to do anything. Hopefully I can continue reading soon, finish many books that are on my to-read list. Until then, I will just keep writing about stuff of great interest – nothing.

Living The Dream

IMDb

Just finished watching Cloud Atlas. Usually, as of late, going to the movies has been a strong disappointment for me. But this film differed from the mostly disappointing movies that have come out lately. Obviously I have my fair share of critiques to say, but overall I thought it was a $10 well spent. I am not here to do movie reviews though, the reason for bringing the movie up is the message of the film. I will admit, I am a sucker for revolution stories, but I think I watched this movie at the right time. Being election time I think I have been thinking more about political ideology, and the movie has a strong emphasis on such subject matter.

The Blackwell Companion to Political Theology

Movie aside, today I have been reminded much about government. Be it from texting friends about singing the national anthem during a worship service, looking up books I want to read, or watching a film about oppression, I do like thinking about it. I have an undying passion for revolution. So it is easy to get me worked up. I have much to say on the subject, but that is a topic for another time.

Overall, I had a successful day of procrastination. So it is now time to do some major homework. Beforehand, I figured it should blog a little bit, get this ball rolling. I have done my fair share of relaxation for a while. The semester is long, but is coming to an end soon, I can smell it in the air. Living the dream, running through school to see what tomorrow has in store.